6 Different
Methods for Breaking a Negative Self-Talk Pattern
No, you don't have to put a bunch of tennis balls in your mouth.
I’m not so
sure where negative self talk comes from, but I see it a lot in our western
culture.
Western thought and concepts of
original sin in Christianity exist culturally going hand in hand like guilt in
our faith. My friends from Asia don’t
seem to have these thoughts of innate badness in them.
They don’t tend to beat themselves up for not
knowing something, they just think, oh well, or that’s your opinion, or, I made
a mistake and this is how you learn and grow.
They don’t take it to heart as personal condemnation; they just move on
and are thankful for the knowledge of correcting their thoughts or
behavior. A much better choice.
It’s funny
how our minds interpret information in our youth and some of us take comments
incredibly personally.
I have a friend
that doesn’t stand up straight because his Father, 55 years ago, said to him
that it was prideful to raise your head up high and so as a child he made a
decision that to have humility was to slouch.
This is not pride, to walk erect with your
spine straight; in fact, this is how we are meant to stand – ears over
shoulders, over hips, over feet. Not
hunched forward because you’re tall. The
hunching did not bring in humility anyway.
What a waste of good height potential.
Ha!
You have to love yourself in
all your thoughts. May as well laugh too.
After a
lifetime of poor thoughts and behaviors, you then start to wake up.
Start to train yourself out of the old
behaviors to learn self appreciation and self love after realizing you’ve been
a bit destructive.
Mistakes are
not meant to leave you in a state of self loathing as a child which would in
turn get carried into adult hood.
Practicing
self love to get yourself out of those negative patterns is an excellent path
for health. People tend to drink alcohol to avoid feeling
their emotions or dark thoughts, not the best plan.
It's not like they go away if you just numb yourself
to them.
If you
catch yourself in a negative thought, try some of these exercises to work with
reprogramming yourself with good ones:
1. Say to yourself “cancel, cancel, disperse,
delete.” Cancel the thought and the feeling, disperse the energy and delete it
from your thoughts. What self talk would
you have liked to hear, say that instead.
2. Pick the opposite of the thought you
initially had.
3. Ask yourself if it is really
true. Come on, be honest with
yourself. You may feel that way in the
moment, but is it really true? If it’s not true, let it go.
4. Ask yourself “How would I feel
without that thought?” Allow yourself to
experience that emotion. Then go back to number 3 after you feel better and
your heart is in compassion with yourself.
5. Go back to practicing gratefulness,
amazing what this vibration does. It
removes hurt from your heart, it relaxes it, and opens it up again once more to
love. You can’t really love and accept
others if you don’t love and accept yourself.
6. If you keep finding yourself in a reoccurring
theme. Work with the false belief you
are holding using EFT or Ho’oponopono.
These techniques
do work, just try it.
If you need
help or assistance in dismantling your old false beliefs keeping you trapped in
a reoccurring pattern that no longer serves you, contact me for
assistance.
Dr. Samantha
Joseph
ph: (316) 685-1581
