The Teacher is Truly You II

I’ve mentioned frequency matching in other blogs, as when we are in reaction to someone it is usually a pattern we are witnessing for a reason. This pattern creates in us a reaction as it resonates with us in some way. Maybe we are pulling it out of a person for a reason to take a better look within ourselves for how we are contributing to the truth we are noticing in some interpersonal interaction in our lives. If we are in reaction to something it is triggering something within ourselves. Only with being truly in integrity with ourselves, truly honest with our own consciousness, can we know what we need to change within us to no longer have the same reaction.

This also applies to the fact when we think we keep getting the same reaction from someone else to what we say or do we need to start taking a look at why they are reacting that way. Is it us or them? It may be a truth about ourselves we don’t want to face. That’s a large issue for most people. They keep thinking that the other person is always giving them flak about an issue, well, maybe there is some truth in the flak, it’s probably a subtle truth we don’t want to acknowledge within ourselves so we keep hearing it from others when its really that we want to grow and change and so we keep hearing a repeated pattern. And, maybe we are holding them to a reaction with our filters not allowing them to change. Maybe they have changed how they are reacting but we cant see it or hear it as we’ve come to expect the old reaction from them and so we just consistently overlay what they are saying with what we think they are saying. It’s a very complex game we play with ourselves.

I know this is esoteric, and may be difficult to understand without examples. We’ll see what we can do. I will use the term us and them to represent aspects of broad interpersonal interaction. We can probably see ourselves in each aspect of the interactions.

An example: A person approaches us with some reason we need to change to make their own reactions more comfortable for them to handle. Well, say it’s a subject we don’t want to discuss. On both sides of this conversation there are things to be learned. The first person probably is in reaction with us because they need to be honest with themselves about why they are reacting. Maybe it’s a subtle truth that they need to really look at within themselves that they don’t want to acknowledge. i.e. - they are irritated with us because they clearly see our lack of self confidence, it is possibly irritating them as it may actually be some aspect of how they feel about themselves, it could just be a mirror for some aspect of themselves they want to improve and it flares them up as they don’t want to look at it, or maybe they don’t want to see us suffer, so they’re in reaction as some part of them is suffering with their own thoughts and feelings about themselves. Only they can take the journey within to truly understand why they are reacting. No one else can do this for them. They have to take their own inner journey to grow, possibly seeking advice from a teacher until they get their own “ahha” in agreement with a shoe that fits. As each person will overlay their own filters in the observance of anothers actions and reactions we have to ultimately find the truth within ourselves for what it is we are supposed to learn.

Back to the initial exaple i.e. – they are irritated with us as they are hearing us call them a user, are we really calling them that or not, well, they are possibly irritated as some part of them is a user and they don’t want to look at it and that’s why they are hearing that. If we react, maybe we are the user, or maybe we are learning that we need to be more honest in the moment, or if we are in reaction why is that, can we change it, do we need to modify ourselves or can we drop it and move on. That is our journey. If we are not in reaction have we become numb to our genuine love for others, has it become too painful to feel, or is it truly not effecting us, but it’s probably wisest to see what role we play. I refuse to believe it’s all the other person, and I refuse to believe anymore it’s all our fault, the only truth is to be found within, through conversations internally through reflection. Talk to God regarding illumining your heart and soul so that you may know the truth. It is your journey within that will unfold for you what you came here to learn. If you don’t want to do the work as you say you don’t care why would you be reading my blog.

The bible speaks of removing the thorn from our own eye before we take it from another. It would have been nicer if they had given more examples of how to do this, but I think it comes down to us being honest with ourselves. A daunting task of self -evaluation. Please don’t create the task of self-devaluation only looking for what’s wrong. See the reaction, love yourself and move on. Love you as God loves you with total compassion, and mercy, seeing only light and love with you. Change the reaction or behavior pattern, empower yourself and enjoy your life. May the blessings of the One that created us all be upon you forever and that we all find more joy in continuing to walk forward upon our journey back to God.