6 Different Methods for Breaking a Negative Self-Talk Pattern

6 Different Methods for Breaking a Negative Self-Talk Pattern

No, you don't have to put a bunch of tennis balls in your mouth.  

I’m not so sure where negative self talk comes from, but I see it a lot in our western culture.   

Western thought and concepts of original sin in Christianity exist culturally going hand in hand like guilt in our faith.  My friends from Asia don’t seem to have these thoughts of innate badness in them.  

They don’t tend to beat themselves up for not knowing something, they just think, oh well, or that’s your opinion, or, I made a mistake and this is how you learn and grow.   

They don’t take it to heart as personal condemnation; they just move on and are thankful for the knowledge of correcting their thoughts or behavior. A much better choice.

It’s funny how our minds interpret information in our youth and some of us take comments incredibly personally.  

I have a friend that doesn’t stand up straight because his Father, 55 years ago, said to him that it was prideful to raise your head up high and so as a child he made a decision that to have humility was to slouch.   

This is not pride, to walk erect with your spine straight; in fact, this is how we are meant to stand – ears over shoulders, over hips, over feet.  Not hunched forward because you’re tall.  The hunching did not bring in humility anyway.  What a waste of good height potential.  Ha!   

You have to love yourself in all your thoughts. May as well laugh too. 

After a lifetime of poor thoughts and behaviors, you then start to wake up.   

Start to train yourself out of the old behaviors to learn self appreciation and self love after realizing you’ve been a bit destructive.   

 

Mistakes are not meant to leave you in a state of self loathing as a child which would in turn get carried into adult hood.   

Practicing self love to get yourself out of those negative patterns is an excellent path for health.   People tend to drink alcohol to avoid feeling their emotions or dark thoughts, not the best plan.  

It's not like they go away if you just numb yourself to them.      

If you catch yourself in a negative thought, try some of these exercises to work with reprogramming yourself with good ones:

1.      Say to yourself “cancel, cancel, disperse, delete.” Cancel the thought and the feeling, disperse the energy and delete it from your thoughts.  What self talk would you have liked to hear, say that instead. 

2.     Pick the opposite of the thought you initially had.

3.     Ask yourself if it is really true.  Come on, be honest with yourself.  You may feel that way in the moment, but is it really true? If it’s not true, let it go.

4.     Ask yourself “How would I feel without that thought?”  Allow yourself to experience that emotion. Then go back to number 3 after you feel better and your heart is in compassion with yourself.

5.     Go back to practicing gratefulness, amazing what this vibration does.  It removes hurt from your heart, it relaxes it, and opens it up again once more to love.  You can’t really love and accept others if you don’t love and accept yourself.

6.     If you keep finding yourself in a reoccurring theme.  Work with the false belief you are holding using EFT or Ho’oponopono. 

 

These techniques do work, just try it.  

If you need help or assistance in dismantling your old false beliefs keeping you trapped in a reoccurring pattern that no longer serves you, contact me for assistance. 

Dr. Samantha Joseph

http://www.BeEmpoweredNow.Net

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